Why You Need Some ‘Me’ Time

So if you’ve ever been in a long term relationship or hanging out with anyone all the time. You need a little ‘me’ time to recuperate, and that’s okay!

Get comfortable with your relationship

If you’re not comfortable with all the ‘poop’ talk yet, then get on with it! You can’t hold that shit in (literally!) It’s bad for your body and you’ll be getting stomach aches for the most horrible of reasons. If your partner cares about you enough, they would want you to do it!

Why you need ‘me’ time

I call it ‘pamper time’. It’s the time that you take to do all your maintenance: Hair removal (from everywhere), Face masks, Hair masks, all of the above that takes longer than your usual daily routine. Taking a little breath to do this so you can relax and enjoy it, is when you can take a step out of your busy schedule to rejuvenate and THEN hop straight back into it. Having a moment to yourself is refreshing, as wearing yourself out from the daily grind can really affect your health. Overworking is a real thing! Have you read ‘How Heavy Is A Glass Of Water?‘ It puts into perspective that you need to take a break every now and again before you ‘pick up that glass of water’ again. Everyone will benefit from you being in a good mood after it!

Pamper yourself

How do you let them know you want a little time for yourself? Just tell them straight up! I prefer my friends being upfront with me. None of the long winded excuses or you’ll just put me off hanging out with you in the future. Can’t say it seriously? Make it into a joke! Have a chill. Your friends will love you for who you are, and taking a few hours out to be alone is perfectly fine. You might not realise it, but at least one of your friends has turned down a plan to have their own pamper!



Why You Need Some ‘Me’ Time

Body Confidence: Why you should get your kit off

If you’ve read my blog about why you should get professional photos taken here, then you’ll love this one!

Aside from having some lovely photos you can use of yourself for business, you should also consider a minimal clothing shoot to boost your body confidence!

Body confidence boost

Feeling a bit down in the dumps about your appearance and want a change? If it’s losing weight, then you go for it! But once you’re happy with your shape how do you want to show it off? Get all the hard work captured in a photo you can frame and admire for many years! Beauty is subjective. And for a more risqué shoot, the more curves the sexier! So you won’t feel the pressure to go on a crash diet for a pin up inspired photo shoot.

You don’t necessarily have to go fully nude, you can just go with what you’re comfortable with; Sexy underwear, nightwear, or even reveal your alter ego! Even if you do decide to go nude, you can also include props. The possibilities are endless!

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It can not only be used as a confidence boost for yourself, but you could also use the prints for a gift to your partner, or to remember your beautiful pregnant body. As always, with anything involving a photoshoot, always be aware of any fees and background checks. Always do your research on the photographer, don’t just ask any guy with a camera to take photos of a semi-naked girl! There are many reputable photographers that may charge a booking fee for hair and make up, and then don’t require any money unless you are happy to buy the prints. Don’t feel pressured into buying anything. Sometimes they might use marketing techniques, but always know your budget!

Have you ever thought of doing a photoshoot? Let us know what you think in the comments down below!

Check out my experience in my latest vlog: MAKING A PORNO?!?


Body Confidence: Why you should get your kit off

From 2015 to 2016 – regrets, resolutions and dates to remember

I learnt A LOT in 2015, and in around 365 days I’d be worried if I didn’t! So here are some of the things I regretted, some resolutions for 2016 and some dates to put into your calendar!

  • I learnt that I hate working on special occasions; my birthday, at Christmas, New years, valentines day and my favourite holiday Halloween!

No, you will regret it even if you ‘only work during the day’. So I’m now vowing to never work on a day that I want to enjoy, and take those holidays I deserve! Which brings me onto my next lesson..

  • I will overcome my anxiety and ask for the holidays I want.

What’s the worst that could happen? They say no, and I work that day. Better to have asked than to never have asked and regret later, because you have to live with that regret.

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So my resolutions for 2016….

  • Take time to relax.

I love keeping busy and seeing my next pay check, but spending time with people you love and chilling out is good for your health. Even for a little retail therapy time! Working overtime back to back isn’t that great when you’re exhausted and dealing with stress, it all builds up and you break down eventually.

  • Spend time with friends and family more.

It’s hard keeping in touch when all of your friends move away after university. But if you all make an effort to meet up every now and again it’s like you only just met yesterday, and you pick up from where you left off. It’s difficult with everyones different schedules, but it’s doable if you all love each other enough!

  • Remember what I want career wise.

I might not know what I want exactly as my career, but not being side tracked by comfort in something is what I have to focus on. Getting stuck in a comfortable bubble or routine or even a job is easy, but it won’t get you your dreams! So challenge yourself and take a leap of faith, you’ll be leaving to do something you love and no one can be mad about that!

Dates for 2016…

  • Summer time officially starts on 27th March 2016, so summer and sunshine is closer than you think. The days are getting longer a little as you get closer to daylight saving time in the UK anyway, so hurray for sunlight.
  • So many amazing movies, Deadpool, The Secret Life of Pets.. and so many more.

Do you have any resolutions for 2016? Let us know how they are going in the comments below!

Cheers to a love of love, prosperity, and luck to a great 2016!




From 2015 to 2016 – regrets, resolutions and dates to remember

Life so far being twenty something

So I recently hit twenty four and now I’ve realised I have to stop being a student and scrimping all of the discounts, life isn’t too bad after all. This is what I’ve learnt so far…

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Don’t compare your life to others

If you really wanted to play that game then let me introduce you to the CEO of Snapchat who is on the list of the worlds youngest billionaires. Some people are just lucky, some worked their asses off, but ultimately they didn’t do it in a day, nor being unproductive and procrastinating. So get yourself out there and active with the community!

Start saving

Pay off your debts and start saving for a mortgage and your pension. The earlier you start the more money you’ll have to tap into when you retire. It seems a way off but if you think about it, just putting £1 away everyday can save up for many things! Struggle with budgeting? Download a budgeting app or do it the old fashioned way on pen and paper, there’s even printable booklets that you can DIY.

But get out of the country

If you’ve never left your door step, it’s the perfect time to go travelling. You may not feel the need to leave your bubble now, but get that travel bug out of the way whilst you can! Before you’re tied down with anything, take advantage of your freedom and spontaneity. Go and see sights that you think look amazing on the screen, actually being there in person always has a different effect that seeing it on a tiny screen.

Wear sunscreen

You always hear about it but the sun can damage the skin so badly, it doesn’t affect your tan and doesn’t hurt to slap a bit on before you head out of the house! Team it with a bottle of water in your bag for you to sip through out the day and your body will thank you for it!

Put yourself first

Never settle for the second best in anything, always try your best to work harder and even in terms of relationships. You’ll get to a point in your life when you realise you have to sift through your friend list and pick out the friends that you think are worth keeping in contact with. If there’s effort made on both ends, then you have a relationship worth keeping. Even romantic relationships, if you aren’t both seeing eye to eye with the priorities in your life then maybe it’s not the right time to be in a relationship. C’est la vie!

Go out there and get em!



Life so far being twenty something

When ‘the talk’ doesn’t have a happy ending

So you’ve been seeing this guy/girl for a while but you both haven’t had the serious talk about where you both stand, but what happens if it all doesn’t pan out as you had imagined?

Relationships rejection and having the talk about where you both stand in a relationship
Having the talk and realising you both aren’t on the same page is something we all need to clear up.

Firstly, if they’re beating around the bush and cannot commit. Be suspicious.

If they’re serious about you and being monogamous, it should be in black and white. But if they dither and starts making excuses, then maybe you should question whether they are actually able to fully commit and be serious. If they have so many doubts and problems at the beginning, then this can dictate what the rest of the relationship will be like. If you strip away all the sugar-coating and kind words, are his actions and body language saying the same thing?

Maybe it’s not the right time, especially if there’s someone else in the picture. Both of your feelings maybe running high, but rushing from one relationship to the next isn’t good for either parties. Having a clear mind whilst apart might make it easier to understand the situation.

Maybe it will be easier if you write it out if you can’t articulate it at the time.

If he rejects you on the spot after the talk with a lame excuse, then maybe he isn’t worth it. But never blame yourself. You can do better than anyone that belittles or uses you.

Although it may feel like it now, it’s NOT the end of the world. Everyone deserves someone who doesn’t take them for granted.

As cliché as it sounds, there really is more fish in the sea. And you aren’t going to meet them all sitting in one place! So check out why you should travel the world.

Whilst it may have been short-lived and ‘not a real relationship’ it may still feel like it was, so check out the 5 stages of a break up and how to get over it.

Have you ever had an un-happy ending? Do you have any great advice? Let us know in the comments below!

Just keep swimming!


When ‘the talk’ doesn’t have a happy ending

Sex and Religion

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When to knock boots with each other?

Being ‘pure’ until marriage is a thing in some religions.

Sometimes you get all caught up in the moment and all lust all over before it all wears off, and you both get bored of each other. I’m not saying sex before marriage shouldn’t happen ever. it’s just a more logical thing to live by if you can wait until you’re married. The three classic ones:

  • ‘But everyone in high school as lost their virginity!’ High schoolers lie. Join them by implying ‘yes, I have lost my virginity. It didn’t last very long, and was very awkward’ Done. If they want to bully you for it then maybe you need to question who are your real friends.
  • ‘But I love him’ Does he love you enough to want to spend the rest of his life with you?
  • And for the people that tell you ‘you’re too young’ everyones mental maturity is different. If you think you’re mature enough to make you’re own life decisions and live with them for the rest of your life, then so be it.

But for the love of God, if you’re not ready for a child then please practice safe sex.

See my Contraception and Safe Sex post coming later today.

Stay tuned.


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